I am still a young man – kind of (age 29). So, as a young man seeking to serve young men, I think it would be helpful to highlight one of the sinful problems many young men have.
Wanting the Wide Door…
In 1 Corinthians 16, we read a litany of personal comments from Paul. It’s like one of those never ending Facebook status updates, except it is Holy Scripture. He is essentially giving updates to his friends, attaching a bunch of postscripts to an email. In verses 8-9 he says that he will stay put because a wide door for effective work has opened to him. Isn’t that what we all want? A wide door. We want the perfect job that pays well right out of college. We want the hot girl who thinks we’re the stuff. We want an obvious sign from God that tells us what to do. Or, if we are more spiritual about it, we want a perfect ministry opportunity that uses our spiritual gifts and satisfies the longings of our heart. Isn’t that what we all want? We say, “Well, Paul got a wide door. So I’m gonna wait for my wide door.”
…Before the Hard Work
Here’s the problem. We fail to recognize how Paul got there. He got there by being like the others he commends in this chapter:
- Timothy, who did the work of the Lord,
- The household of Stephanas, who devoted themselves to serving the saints, and
- All the other workers and laborers.
Paul’s wide door didn’t fling open while he was playing a video game and putting back Taco Bell before he went to watch Grown Ups for the 10th time. Paul’s wide door flung open after he had worked hard, confronted adversaries, and spent himself for others. Timothy worked hard. The household of Stephanas worked hard. That’s what God’s men do: they work hard.
If you are a young man, your problem might be that you refuse to work hard. You are waiting for that sweet company that makes cool products to call you up and offer you a $60k out-of-the-gate position, so you refuse to get a lesser paying job. You are waiting for the hot chick to come knocking at your door, so you refuse to clean up your place, put on some decent clothes, and learn about being a godly husband. You are waiting for that leadership position in the church that is a perfect match for your gifts and calling, so you refuse to get dirty until then. You won’t teach in Children’s Ministry because it isn’t cool enough. You don’t want to help the set-up team because it’s too early to wake up. You think that magically one day you will be a new Home Community leader or church planter or elder because you can talk theology or sound smart or be nice.
Go Ahead and Repent
If that is you, go ahead and repent now. There is a crew of young men in our church who have already started doing this. One guy signed up to serve in the nursery twice each month! He is going to be an awesome dad. Another guy started coming up to the office and asking how he could help. He is about to be an intern. Others have grown to be Home Community leaders. One became a deacon. They all have one thing in common: they worked hard before the wide door.
My prayer for the young men in our city and our church is that they would work hard with Paul and Timothy and Stephanas. That they would work hard because Jesus worked hard for them. Jesus didn’t halfway die by crucifixion. Jesus didn’t sleep in while he was sacrificing his life for yours. Jesus didn’t aimlessly play around with his life. Jesus worked hard, so that you might work hard, too. So work hard! Usually then, the doors tend to open wider. Get your Walmart job instead of snoozing until 10am. Learn how to treat girls like sisters who are worthy of kindness and purity. Learn how to serve until you’re tired, love until you’re exhausted, and work until your wide open door shows up.









